Cool

'Do you always have a smiling face?', 'ஏன் எப்பவுமே பல்ல காட்டுரடா _____?', 'Do you manage to stay cool always?', 'உனக்கு எப்பவுமே கோவம் வராதா?' . These are all some of the questions which some have asked me. I would be lying if my answer was 'Yes' and I am not one of the most coolest person on face of this earth. OK, 'cool' is a filler word in english which has multiple meanings. The cool I mean here and in the rest of the blog is - not getting panic, staying calm, not getting angry etc. Phew, this is a multi-multi meaning word. Coming back to the topic, I have seen and inspired from many living examples, whom I have admired on their ability to stay cool even when tormented and under pressure. My first mention has to be my Mom (should we keep the initial letter of Mom as caps. Never mind, I feel that it should be this way like the rule for the word 'God'). Come on, focus and stay on the original topic :). OK, after a typical day of a software engineer's work at Chennai, I am the most eruptable dormant volcano on the earth backed by some frustating moments and off course, the horrible traffic. I would become 'active' automatically and erupt furiously just for a couple of 'kind' questions from my Mom. But she remains cool and pours the hot lava (I mean குழம்பு) over the சாதம், the serving for which she has been waiting for until I return. Oh man, she stays so calm turning a storm to a gentle breeze. Partly, I have either inherited or groomed my character from her.

Next, I have admired and inspired from Rahul Dravid. If you have been following cricket, I dont need to explain much here. His ability to stay focussed, never getting panic or not even losing his temperament with the toughest of situations is a character worth holding no matter what business you are in.

Then, there is a friend and college mate of mine, who after losing his hall ticket on the morning of the final exam searched for it (didnt get it), took bath, applied for and got an alternative one from college office and then went to exam. I didnt even see a sense of panic or frustration on him. He was like - 'Yeah, it happened. what next?'. I mean, there are some people who try to be cool but he was naturally cool.

There are many more characters worth mentioning here but I prefer to keep my blog brief. What makes them to stay cool? I have thought about this and tried or trying to stay cool most of the times in my life. I hope my writings here may help some of you to get an insight too. You may get angry or panic by either a situation or a person or both. You can stay cool if you perceive the problem outside of you but once you pull it into you trying to solve , it becomes part of you and hence you vent it as anger or frustration. Most of the times, passing the moment is a good option as you may repent over your action later if you have reacted silly. Now, what are the cool (this cool is of different meaning) advantages of staying cool?

1. Save it for the ultimate moment - I mean, if you get angry often, you lose the speciality of possessing that and no one cares if you get angry. If you get angry once in a millenium, it catches other's attention even if it is a silly matter. The slap and shout which I gave to my classmate silenced the environment of my classroom from a 'fish market' to a 'meditation centre' for 5 mins and it was for such a silly reason which I dont even remember now.

2. Employ your mind at its best - You can be at your best if you dont panic or dont get hyped with anger or nervousness and thus you get an advantage over your peer.

3. To be a winner - In an encounter, if you are the last one to stay cool, you will be the one to have the last smile too.

4. Girls can skip this point - As far as I have known about the Eve's section, most of them like it if you stay cool. Because extra angriness and shouting are their (I dont mean all but most of them) own charateritic assets corresponding to the muscle power of Men as gifted by the Nature. So, it is nice to be complementary which can be miserable otherwise. This is an advantage when you happen to share your life with your angel.

Cutting the crap, I am closing the blog with some of Kamal Haasan's touch.

If you are not naturally cool, 'Cool-na enna-nu theriyuma? Kadupaagatha maathiri nadikurathu'.

All said and done, one has to lose his temper and express when it is really needed but it should be constructive and also calculative and cool! (like the nose punch of Kamal to Madhavan in the movie 'Anbae Sivam').